Why We Must Act Without Motive

Why We Must Act Without Motive

Whenever we set goals, we’re encouraged to explore the why behind the goal. That makes a lot of sense, because the universe has its own way of delivery.

I’m beginning to understand something else, though. There is another place where the why should never enter.

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What is the Price for Belonging?

A lot of our expectations are not our own. Culture shapes what we think about the world, about what people, including us, should do and how we should all be. Cultural norms – which are nothing but expectations – define what success is, how a marriage is supposed to run, how children are to be raised and even what happiness consists of. Social animals that we are, we strive to adhere cultural expectations, lest we be excluded from the happy zoo of conformity.

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Don’t Like What’s Happening? Read This.

Most of us live our lives as if whatever goes on within our minds is the ultimate truth in the world. We take everything personal. From our in-law’s comment to the neighbor’s dog poo on our front yard to the rain on our barbeque. They all seem out to get us sometimes. After all, they KNOW how you feel about this, don’t they?
Let’s get some perspective then and see how truly nothing is or will ever be personal.

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I am safe

You see, it is one thing to face the Beast and KNOW that you’re alone. When you KNOW that no one has your back, you never even attempt to glimpse over your shoulder to find support. You face the Beast head on. Then, maybe, maybe the Beast is puzzled by your grim determination.

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6 Steps to Befriend Your Fears and Get a Life

I could start the article by suggesting that the corona virus was developed and spread by the toilet paper industry, but that would be a lame joke. In fact, I don’t want to talk about COVID-19 at all. I want to talk about fears. Not THE FEAR. Fears.

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We’re just not good enough at feeling good enough

So, here we are having understood that expecting other people to make us happy doesn’t work. That we are the ones responsible for our own happiness. And what do we do? We beat ourselves up for not making ourselves happy. Raise your hand if that’s what you do.

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What do you need to heal?

We have been raised and conditioned to believe that we need to heal to be ok. That we have to undergo therapy. That we have to overcome this or that or the other. That we have to work hard. That only time heals all wounds (how much time? They never say). That we have to wait For our parents to recognize us. For our children to forgive us. For our man to love us. For our friends to support us.…

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