A Manifest for the Embodiment of Imperfection
Most professionals working in self-development feel pressure to embody the promise of human perfection. We should embody the process instead.
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Difficult Conversations?
How do we have difficult conversations? Any time we expect a conversation to be(come) difficult, it is because we assume that either the other person will reject what we propose or they will be hurt by what we share with them. I want to talk about the latter. I have had two conversations lately that I dreaded as potentially quite difficult. That is, they appeared difficult in my mind until the moment I actually had them. In both cases I…
You better not have any expectations.
Well, in all honesty: having no expectations helps. Have you ever gone to a place or event without having the slightest idea what you could expect and it turned out it was really, really awesome? Then, why, when people come up with that idea that they better not have any expectations, they usually do that with such a tone of resignation and sadness? Most of us believe that when you do not expect anything you will not get anything. In…
Should you lower your expectations?
There are countless studies that try to figure out whether it is better to have or maintain high expectations, or better to lower your expectations. Some say when you lower your expectations, you are more likely to be happy, and have your expectations met, others find out that marriages that set higher expectations are more likely to be successful, because they bring more quality into the marriage. To a certain degree that is pretty obvious. If you stand at the…
Realistic Expectations – Really?
A lot of discussion and arguments are around the question of whether or not your or their expectations are realistic. What a gigantic waste of time and energy! We’re close to eight billion people on the planet and we can probably find about the same amount of opinions about your specific expectation. Ask a parent of a 15-year-old first-born whether it’s realistic to expect him to throw his socks into the laundry basket every evening and they’ll say of course.…
Expectations 101
Here’s your day. You open your eyes and…. no sunshine. What’s that about? Weather forecast said it’d be blue sky and you had planned on going for a run in the morning to finally get into shape. Ain’t gonna happen. Then you remember that COVID-19 is somewhere out there and the election is coming up and, surely, half of the folks are going to do the wrong thing. Rolling out of bed becomes a dire deed. A walk into the…
The Best Advice
Really, this is not about us. We only have their best interests in mind. Then, why does it seem so damn hard for other people to take our advice?
Are you willing to receive?
Most of us are primarily concerned with the question: what can I get?
That question is futile. You can have it all. The real question is: what are you willing to receive?
Guilt and Expectations
The one source of human suffering lies in our unmet expectations. Christian and other teachings speak about the original sin – our hereditary guilt – as the source of all suffering. Are we talking about two different things then?
How to Free Yourself From Expectations
How can we overcome our frustration of unmet expectations? Contrary to popular belief, it is not by pressuring others into meeting them, lowering them or resign into martyrdom.
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