You better not have any expectations.

You better not have any expectations.

Well, in all honesty: having no expectations helps. Have you ever gone to a place or event without having the slightest idea what you could expect and it turned out it was really, really awesome? Then, why, when people come up with that idea that they better not have any expectations, they usually do that with such a tone of resignation and sadness? Most of us believe that when you do not expect anything you will not get anything. In…

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Should you lower your expectations?

There are countless studies that try to figure out whether it is better to have or maintain high expectations, or better to lower your expectations. Some say when you lower your expectations, you are more likely to be happy, and have your expectations met, others find out that marriages that set higher expectations are more likely to be successful, because they bring more quality into the marriage. To a certain degree that is pretty obvious. If you stand at the…

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Realistic Expectations – Really?

A lot of discussion and arguments are around the question of whether or not your or their expectations are realistic. What a gigantic waste of time and energy! We’re close to eight billion people on the planet and we can probably find about the same amount of opinions about your specific expectation. Ask a parent of a 15-year-old first-born whether it’s realistic to expect him to throw his socks into the laundry basket every evening and they’ll say of course.…

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Expectations 101

Here’s your day. You open your eyes and…. no sunshine. What’s that about? Weather forecast said it’d be blue sky and you had planned on going for a run in the morning to finally get into shape. Ain’t gonna happen. Then you remember that COVID-19 is somewhere out there and the election is coming up and, surely, half of the folks are going to do the wrong thing. Rolling out of bed becomes a dire deed. A walk into the…

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Shame

Shame spits into your romantic dinner. Shame laughs its ugly cackle at your reflection in the mirror. Shame is the last door in your dungeon.

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The Best Advice

Really, this is not about us. We only have their best interests in mind. Then, why does it seem so damn hard for other people to take our advice?

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Are you willing to receive?

Most of us are primarily concerned with the question: what can I get?
That question is futile. You can have it all. The real question is: what are you willing to receive?

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Guilt and Expectations

The one source of human suffering lies in our unmet expectations. Christian and other teachings speak about the original sin – our hereditary guilt – as the source of all suffering. Are we talking about two different things then?

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Am I Racist?

After I read my friend’s post about her experience as a black woman, I felt compelled to take a stand. To raise my voice against racism.
I wanted to write about my support. I wanted to write about how terrible racism is and how much I condemn it.
But it did not feel right. What I had to write was something else and it wasn’t comfortable at all. Am I racist?

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