Shame

Shame

Shame spits into your romantic dinner. Shame laughs its ugly cackle at your reflection in the mirror. Shame is the last door in your dungeon.

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The Best Advice

Really, this is not about us. We only have their best interests in mind. Then, why does it seem so damn hard for other people to take our advice?

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Are you willing to receive?

Most of us are primarily concerned with the question: what can I get?
That question is futile. You can have it all. The real question is: what are you willing to receive?

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Guilt and Expectations

The one source of human suffering lies in our unmet expectations. Christian and other teachings speak about the original sin – our hereditary guilt – as the source of all suffering. Are we talking about two different things then?

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Am I Racist?

After I read my friend’s post about her experience as a black woman, I felt compelled to take a stand. To raise my voice against racism.
I wanted to write about my support. I wanted to write about how terrible racism is and how much I condemn it.
But it did not feel right. What I had to write was something else and it wasn’t comfortable at all. Am I racist?

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The Right Question

For most of my career as advisor for Results Based Monitoring (RBM) I supported government and NGO teams in changing their perspective and approach to the way projects are planned, implemented and monitored. RBM is about asking the right question. The most important shift was moving from asking “Why” to asking “What for”. Over the years and decades thousands of projects have been implemented around the world in reaction to an undesired situation. Wells were drilled, schools and hospitals built,…

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What happens when we no longer expect anything

For a very long time we have held on to the belief that unless we expect, claim, request and ask for what ‘is ours’ we will not get it. Countless courses to help people be more assertive stress the importance to – if not aggressively, then at least firmly demand our expectations to be fulfilled and our needs to be met.

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