So, here we are having understood that expecting other people to make us happy doesn’t work. That we are the ones responsible for our own happiness. And what do we do? We beat ourselves up for not making ourselves happy. Raise your hand if that’s what you do.
We have been raised and conditioned to believe that we need to heal to be ok. That we have to undergo therapy. That we have to overcome this or that or the other. That we have to work hard. That only time heals all wounds (how much time? They never say). That we have to wait For our parents to recognize us. For our children to forgive us. For our man to love us. For our friends to support us.…
Last time, I wrote about the failing cheerleaders and how their lack of support reflects their own fears and pains. This time, let’s have a look at how their lack of support reflects OUR fears and pains.
My friends: be prepared. After all the things you’ve worked out, studied, prepared, asked about, planned, calculated and investigated, there is this one that hits most first-time entrepreneurs (following the frenzy of word-mangling: firstepreneurs – ouch, just kidding!) never considered. It hits them like a wall, when it comes.
Let’s call it the outsourced self-sabotage.
Can you fake competence? Not really. You may ‘fake’ your way through a job interview if the panel does not ask the right questions. Once you’re in, though, incompetence will show up very quickly.
None of this means, though, that you cannot be or even fake confidence. Here’s why.