This is the first act of three. A piece on gratitude, decisions and the universe.
Last time, I wrote about the failing cheerleaders and how their lack of support reflects their own fears and pains. This time, let’s have a look at how their lack of support reflects OUR fears and pains.
My friends: be prepared. After all the things you’ve worked out, studied, prepared, asked about, planned, calculated and investigated, there is this one that hits most first-time entrepreneurs (following the frenzy of word-mangling: firstepreneurs – ouch, just kidding!) never considered. It hits them like a wall, when it comes.
Let’s call it the outsourced self-sabotage.
Can you fake competence? Not really. You may ‘fake’ your way through a job interview if the panel does not ask the right questions. Once you’re in, though, incompetence will show up very quickly.
None of this means, though, that you cannot be or even fake confidence. Here’s why.
A client I recently coached on leadership had been stuck in the belief that he WAS a certain type of leader. Only when he realized that he could USE elements of various leadership styles according to whatever felt was the best thing to do in a given situation, did he see the opportunity for him to solve problems he had struggled with for a long time.
The awkwardness of charging money for what we love doing makes sense, if we depart from the idea that any payment is a form of compensation. Compensation for wasting our lives away, doing work that makes us feel miserable. In this case, it holds true that the greater the fun we have at work, the less we should earn. The more miserable we feel about our work, the more we should get paid.
The trouble with this perspective is that it somehow assumes that somebody other than we ourselves is responsible for our misery, is actually causing it by being interested in our product or service.
One of my passions is looking at what sticks in our minds like glue and takes away the space we need to step ahead and live our lives in line with our passions. So, I set out to talk to people, who have overcome some of the sticky parts and others who are still struggling with overcoming them.