We have been raised and conditioned to believe that we need to heal to be ok. That we have to undergo therapy. That we have to overcome this or that or the other. That we have to work hard. That only time heals all wounds (how much time? They never say). That we have to wait For our parents to recognize us. For our children to forgive us. For our man to love us. For our friends to support us.…
Few terms get the heat up as quickly as ‘fake’ these days. Everybody hates the fakes.
Except here is the truth: We are all fakes.
How easy is it to jump into the unknown? How easy is it to move a whole family to another continent in complete uncertainty?
It is as easy as we allow it to be.
This is the first act of three. A piece on gratitude, decisions and the universe.
Last time, I wrote about the failing cheerleaders and how their lack of support reflects their own fears and pains. This time, let’s have a look at how their lack of support reflects OUR fears and pains.
My friends: be prepared. After all the things you’ve worked out, studied, prepared, asked about, planned, calculated and investigated, there is this one that hits most first-time entrepreneurs (following the frenzy of word-mangling: firstepreneurs – ouch, just kidding!) never considered. It hits them like a wall, when it comes.
Let’s call it the outsourced self-sabotage.
Can you fake competence? Not really. You may ‘fake’ your way through a job interview if the panel does not ask the right questions. Once you’re in, though, incompetence will show up very quickly.
None of this means, though, that you cannot be or even fake confidence. Here’s why.
Positive thinking has fallen from grace. Too many side effects. Over-confidence or feelings of failure. Should we resolve to think negatively then?
I recently read about somatic experiencing. I can’t say I fully understand how this works, but it reminded me of our chickens.
We think the ones around us would be the most supportive, but suddenly they lash out. What happened?